Belief, Spirituality & This Space

I don’t need you to believe what I believe.

I actually think some of the most interesting conversations happen when we don’t.

I grew up Christian. For many years, Christianity was the language I had for God, spirituality, prayer, right and wrong, and what I thought life was supposed to mean.

As I got older, I started questioning things.

Not because I suddenly had all the answers, but because I realized I didn’t.

And strangely enough, admitting that opened something in me.

I gave myself permission to ask questions I had once been afraid to ask. I became curious about other spiritual traditions, philosophy, consciousness, sexuality, the body, ritual, nature, shadow work, and the many ways human beings have tried to understand what it means to be alive.

Today, I don’t practice a particular religion.

My spirituality is still very real to me. I pray. I have rituals. I listen to my intuition. I pay attention to experiences I cannot always explain.

You may see me with sage, incense, smoke, candles, prayer, or other forms of spiritual practice. You may hear me use words like sacred, spiritual, energy, ancestors, and Oracle.

Those things are part of my relationship with spirituality.

They are not requirements for yours.

If I say prayer, you may understand prayer through God. Someone else may call it intention. Another person may simply call it reflection.

I’m interested in what it means to you.

You Don’t Have to Leave Your Beliefs at the Door

You may be Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, connected to an ancestral or traditional spiritual practice, spiritual but not religious, atheist, agnostic, secular, questioning everything, or somewhere in between.

You are welcome here.

If your faith is important to you, I’m not interested in taking it away from you.

If you’re questioning your faith, I’m not interested in deciding where those questions should lead.

And if you don’t believe in anything spiritual at all, you don’t need to pretend that you do in order to work with me.

I don’t want my beliefs to become instructions for yours.

That’s important to me.

Because the same curiosity I bring to desire through Erotic Intelligence is the curiosity I bring to belief.

What does this mean to you?
Where did this belief come from?
Does it still feel true?
What happens when two things you believe seem to contradict each other?
And what if you don’t know yet?

Sometimes the Answer Is Yes and No

One of the ideas that has become important in my life is that sometimes the answer is yes and no.

Two people can experience the same thing and understand it differently.

Something can feel sacred to one person and ordinary to another.

A belief can support you during one season of your life and become something you question in another.

A desire can contain information without becoming an instruction.

And sometimes two things that appear to contradict each other can both contain truth when we understand their context.

I don’t think uncertainty always needs to be fixed.

Sometimes “I don’t know” is an honest place to stand.

Spirituality, Sexuality & the Body

I don’t believe spirituality requires us to reject the body.

For me, spirituality can exist beside sexuality, pleasure, nudity, desire, aging, shame, relationships, money, grief, power, surrender, and everything else that comes with being human.

That is part of why my work moves through Erotic Intelligence, embodiment, shadow work, conscious sexuality, spiritual inquiry, and sometimes Tantra.

Not because every experience needs to become spiritual.

And not because every spiritual experience needs to become sexual.

I simply don’t believe we always have to divide ourselves into separate rooms.

Sometimes a desire is something to explore psychologically.
Sometimes the body is communicating something.
Sometimes shadow work reveals a part of ourselves we have been avoiding, judging, hiding, or struggling to understand.
Sometimes there is spiritual meaning for you.
Sometimes there isn’t.
Sometimes there are several explanations at once.

We can leave room for that.

What I Will Never Ask of You

I’m not here to convert you.
I’m not here to become your religious authority.
I’m not here to tell you that something happened because you weren’t spiritually aligned enough.

And I’m not here to convince you that my understanding of God, consciousness, sexuality, spirituality, Tantra, desire, or existence should become yours.

I may share what I notice.
I may tell you how I understand something.
I may ask a question you haven’t considered.

But you are allowed to disagree with me.

I think that’s important too.

My role is not to replace one set of rules about who you’re supposed to be with another set of rules that happen to sound more spiritual.

It is to leave enough room for you to hear yourself.

Come As You Believe

Bring your faith.
Bring your questions.
Bring your skepticism.
Bring the beliefs that have carried you.
Bring the ones you’re reconsidering.
Bring your spiritual practices.
Bring your lack of spiritual practice.
Bring the things you cannot explain.
Bring your I don’t know.

You don’t have to believe what I believe to be welcome here.

You only have to be willing to become curious about what you believe.